I know, I know it seems like all we ever do and all I ever write about is our fighting. We had a bad one last night, but it turned out to be a really good thing because I think it cleared the air about a lot of stuff we've both been thinking and feeling.
It all started with us watching this show, The Baby Borrowers. It's a very strange show and overall it really annoyed me, but it also made me think about just how unprepared Mark will be when we have kids. Everyone always tells me it will be different when they're his own kids, that he'll just have to step up and do it, that he'll love a baby because its ours. Everyone telling me that doesn't make me believe it, though.
So we got into a small argument about our plans for starting a family that escalated into accusations from me regarding his unwillingness to help with cleaning and his pointing fingers at me because I "never cook."
Ugh, thinking back on it now it seems like such a stupid, pointless argument. Most are though. I think this one was just a result of a lot of pent up feelings and frustration we both had and needed to discuss. We were up until after midnight crying (that was mostly me), talking, yelling (sorry neighbors!) and getting it all off our chests.
In the end we made up (really, really, really made up! smile) and I feel so much better about everything. He mentioned starting to try (really try) for a family as soon as September! We're also going to start looking in earnest at fixer-upper houses. We decided that we'll stay on the look-out for a house in the country for the next few months but should I get pregnant, we'll likely put an offer in on a house we found and like in the city.
It's important to both of us to be have a house/home to bring a baby into. Nothing really against apartments, it's just what we've always discussed. I think this is a pretty good solution - we've still got time to look for a house in the country, but have a back up plan in case we'd get pregnant right away. We're both realistic and realize it could take months of trying before it actually happens, or it could happen the very first time. Either way we've got a plan.
We both said some pretty hurtful things to eachother last night, but in the end apologized and both decided to work on the things we can work on and learn to let the small stuff slide.
This weekend, we're going to book a vacation! We'll probably go to Wisconsin Dells sometime next month just to get away for a few days and be together. We really want to do something fun for just the two of us before the summer is over, because it just may be our last vacation together without the pitter patter of little feetsies accompanying us!
I'm feeling very excited about our future and in a way, so happy that we have these fights and arguments. We're both pretty passionate people and we just need to have little blow ups so we can appreciate all we do have. The making up isn't so bad either! Wink, wink!
It all started with us watching this show, The Baby Borrowers. It's a very strange show and overall it really annoyed me, but it also made me think about just how unprepared Mark will be when we have kids. Everyone always tells me it will be different when they're his own kids, that he'll just have to step up and do it, that he'll love a baby because its ours. Everyone telling me that doesn't make me believe it, though.
So we got into a small argument about our plans for starting a family that escalated into accusations from me regarding his unwillingness to help with cleaning and his pointing fingers at me because I "never cook."
Ugh, thinking back on it now it seems like such a stupid, pointless argument. Most are though. I think this one was just a result of a lot of pent up feelings and frustration we both had and needed to discuss. We were up until after midnight crying (that was mostly me), talking, yelling (sorry neighbors!) and getting it all off our chests.
In the end we made up (really, really, really made up! smile) and I feel so much better about everything. He mentioned starting to try (really try) for a family as soon as September! We're also going to start looking in earnest at fixer-upper houses. We decided that we'll stay on the look-out for a house in the country for the next few months but should I get pregnant, we'll likely put an offer in on a house we found and like in the city.
It's important to both of us to be have a house/home to bring a baby into. Nothing really against apartments, it's just what we've always discussed. I think this is a pretty good solution - we've still got time to look for a house in the country, but have a back up plan in case we'd get pregnant right away. We're both realistic and realize it could take months of trying before it actually happens, or it could happen the very first time. Either way we've got a plan.
We both said some pretty hurtful things to eachother last night, but in the end apologized and both decided to work on the things we can work on and learn to let the small stuff slide.
This weekend, we're going to book a vacation! We'll probably go to Wisconsin Dells sometime next month just to get away for a few days and be together. We really want to do something fun for just the two of us before the summer is over, because it just may be our last vacation together without the pitter patter of little feetsies accompanying us!
I'm feeling very excited about our future and in a way, so happy that we have these fights and arguments. We're both pretty passionate people and we just need to have little blow ups so we can appreciate all we do have. The making up isn't so bad either! Wink, wink!
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